Guidelines for Mentors and Mentees
You may like to:
- Consider family gatherings and group activities with other Mentors and Mentees;
- Let us know via email how your Mentee(s) are progressing; and
- Offer opinions and perspectives to challenge your Mentee(s) intellectually.
You should NOT:
- Give your Mentee(s) expensive gifts;
- Always pick up the bill. Let your Mentee(s) pay once in a while! or
- Help your Mentee(s), in actual terms, to secure a job.
- "Spend time with your Mentee, get to know more about their family and history, and share your own. Throw them questions to see how they respond."
- "If you have children, involve them with your Mentee, and make them mentees of your Mentee. In this way, you can also teach your Mentee how to be a Mentor."
- "Show care and concern. Ignore your age."
- "Try bringing past and current Mentees together for a gathering, especially if a past Mentee is now in the workforce."
- "Mentees grow, and it's probably good to know she knows she has someone to fall back on when she encounters a problem, be it in life, career or love."
- "At first my Mentee seemed so remote. So I started sharing all my failures and telling her how I was intimidated when I first started work. Soon the ice was broken."
- "My Mentee cheered me up just at the right time. It is great to have him around."
- "We meet regularly. Friendship has been forged as well as a sense of helping out each other. We joke that when we have team members born under all 12 signs of the Chinese Zodiac, any project we undertake as a group will thrive. That's according to the Chinese tradition. We look forward to growing our family."
- Seek innovative ways to meet;
- Take the initiative to contact your Mentor and make arrangements for activities;
- Always reply your Mentor's emails and return his/her calls;
- Prepare some topics for discussion before you meet;
- Send emails, letters or cards to your Mentor when he/she is too busy to meet;
- Observe general etiquette standards, i.e. be punctual and courteous; remember to write a thank you note to Mentor after each meeting;
- Be confident in expressing your opinions even if they differ from those of your Mentor;
- Invite your Mentor to join activities on campus;
- Take part in activities organised by the Programme Facilitator that interest you, even if your Mentor is not available;
- Contact the Programme Facilitator or your Mentee Leader if you encounter problems regarding the Programme; and
- Support your Mentee Leader in organising meetings and small group functions.
You should NOT:
- Be too shy to share your inner feelings;
- Be too busy to meet your Mentor;
- Contact your Mentor at unreasonable hours;
- Expect your Mentor to have all the answers to your problems;
- Be discouraged if your Mentor is always busy; be patient and persistent; or
- Take for granted that your Mentor is going to pay for everything; remember to express your gratitude by writing a thank you note to Mentor after meeting.
- "Whether we meet in person or through email, I have been able to share my ideas with my mentor."
- "It has been a great chance to get to know HKU alumni who have been working for many years and have the extra opportunities to get a feel for the work environment while I'm still a student."
- "You might also be exposed to professional or social events a student would not usually have access to."
- "Learning to share, relate and connect with your Mentor is great training for building your communication skills."
- "My Mentor is a very approachable fatherly figure. He provided me with a lot of guidance. I am grateful for his help."
- "Your Mentor can help you expand your social network outside the University and give you advice and tips that cannot be learnt elsewhere."